Projection is the greatest tool

Something happens, it could be personal it could be work related, but it happens, it's bad (or immediately that's what it appears to be). Life's ups and downs WILL happen regardless of what we do to prevent them, the most important thing to do is learn how to deal with life so you can get the most out of it.

My old self didn't have the best coping strategies, to tell you the truth they were none existent. I'd picked up many negative habits as most people do and I'm so grateful they are behind me now, and I'm hopeful my learning can now help others.

So firstly you need to know this, things didn't change over night and they can't (maybe I'm wrong here but I personally don't think they can). The way you deal with things is something that's hard wired into your being, it's automatic and it can happen in an instant. But I'm great proof that over time you can learn to deal with things differently and that it's worth all the hard work.

One of the best tips I have ever heard and one that has been the most useful, (because if used at the right time) it really can have an almost immediate effect in how you then deal with a situation.
It's called PROJECTION, it's very simple. Before you get upset (or even during) try with all your might to STOP and think about the situation. Now, project into the future a week, a year, 10 years or beyond. Does it really matter? Is your upset, anger, stress, anxiety going to make anything about that current situation better? The answer is NO. You being in that state is not going to make it better, my negative habits personally made things worst because I would deal with things in a negative way and end up feeling worst because of my actions.

Obviously bad things can happen in life and we do need to emotionally deal with them, if someone close to you passes away or tragedy strikes in some other way, you will have healthy emotions, feeling sad and crying etc But even in the worst circumstances there becomes a point in time when you need to start looking at the brighter side of things.

What I'm talking about here is general day to day life and dealing with things, if you know that down the line you're going to get over what ever the situation is, that it won't really matter. Then you should start to think about how much time it's worth loosing over it, maybe start getting over it sooner rather than later and you will start to enjoy life again.

​Peace and love to you and yours.