Dark times, dark moments, dark thinking and emotions etc can come, BUT always know they WILL go. My life’s not perfect but to someone on the outside looking in it is, we all have our demons, we all have room to improve in ourselves. I notice my most difficult times come when I have ‘a way I think life should be or how I want it to be’ and when it doesn’t look like this it’s frustrating or can lead to a negative place for me, like it does for most people.

​​Ok so let’s talk about MANIFESTATION, not something I’ve spoken about here before BUT something that has definitely been evident in my life and something I wondered if you’d tried?

Perhaps you call it something else like using ‘The Secret’, the law of attraction, praying, a letter to the universe (the list is endless for names).

For me it’s something I was aware of when I was very young, it came naturally to me and is a way I achieve a great deal of opportunity in my life.

​Last week made me wonder have a I grown up TOO MUCH? Well I have a little, but when I look at most adults I realise so many others have too. It all started when I went swimming with my girls and they were freely jumping in the water, I remembered summers as a kid spending countless hours jumping in and out of the pool, doing flips, cartwheels etc etc

A daily mantra is a motivating chant that you can say internally to yourself to help you get through difficult times, to motivate you, to improve your daily life and your thinking, amongst other things. For me this has been a great tool to use for my negative internal voice, sometimes I refer to the voice as the 'Ego', most people suffer with the internal negative and I have found using a Mantra has been a great way to stop the incessant negative internal banter. 

I think it's fair to say we all want a happy life, some want success, some want lots of money, others just want to get through the day to day, whatever you want your life to be like; I'm sure you want to be happy.

So if you want it so much then why aren't you? I'm not trying to patronise you, believe me I've been there; I've had my dark days, hasn't everyone? It's easy to get swept up into the everyday stuff and before you know it life's flying past you and you're letting negative emotions rule you. Maybe not all the time, but you might have one of the days where you find things difficult, upsetting, frustrating etc.

Now a little while ago I stumble across some information about how you shouldn't let a compliment go to your head and how if you let a good comment effect you emotionally i.e. Make you feel happy, then you would be susceptible to negative feedback, or worst no feedback. In that you expected certain feedback and you didn't get it. I remember thinking "well I guess, I mean everyone does like praise for doing something good", but I had never thought about the opposite.

I hadn't really thought about how the outside world had such an impact internally, or that I could choose not to let it effect me. It got me thinking about my reaction to situations and how just maybe it would be possible to choose how I reacted.

​I had a long time off exercise, especially during my twenty's; I had better things to do (or so I thought). So after very little exercise and two children later, you can imagine I had put on a few inches, which made me feel terrible about myself. Rather than doing anything about it I found myself complaining about how I looked instead and my general mood during this time was also quite low.

Most people believe they are fully responsible for the thoughts they create, that every thought they have is something they should believe or even more scary; that every thought is totally true, obviously to some extent this can be correct, but the key to success and a happy life, is to understand what thoughts are and how they can help or hinder you.

Everyday our thoughts guide our life (if you let them that is) you wake up and the thinking starts, it can be so powerful that this then runs your day, no matter what the script is; be it negative or positive. It can be hard to believe there is any other way, other than what our thoughts allow us to believe.

How do you really want your life to be? Does anything get to you on a daily basis? Your Health, fitness, body, work, career, lifestyle, family, friends, how you live?

Everything you're doing right now is a choice, the way you live and how you look at life is a choice, it's a hard lesson to learn; I know that! But the one thing you can do today is wake up and realise you are in control of your life, YOU!

If you're not happy with it you are the only one who can change that. I have personally been on the wrong path in life doing things I didn't enjoy or want to do, my health and fitness went out the window and I was sinking into a bad place.

I'm so grateful I changed my ways, but I did that MYSELF, inside somewhere I found the will to change, I made the CHOICE to change, I stopped making EXCUSES and have done everything possible to make myself HAPPY and I continue I work towards that happy place everyday.

​Peace and and love to you and yours.

As a screen acting teacher I love exploring new techniques to aid my class members into becoming better Actors and it was through this passion to help actors; that I stumbled across one of the most beneficial life tools yet!

After presenting my 'breathing technique' class to several classes including children from 7 years to adults, I received significant feedback about how the exercises had such a positive effect on people's lives.

"I knew I needed to start consciously making an effort to use the techniques myself".

I was already blown away by the breathing techniques when I first discovered and developed my "breathing techniques class session", so I decided to start trying the techniques myself during situations were I felt particularly emotional. I wondered if I could use the techniques to change my emotion using the methods I taught in class, in the heat of the moment. Not just to create an emotion, I also wanted to know how quick and effective they were in everyday life.

Being a very busy mummy of two toddlers (aged 2 and 3 years) and running 3 companies, as you can imagine life can be a rollercoaster of emotion and I'm often looking for ways to help me deal with life more effectively. Like most people sometimes my emotions get the better of me and I've found that these exercises and 'understanding my breathing' has really helped me take back control of my emotions.

I recently heard on the radio a report about how women are more likely to suffer from anxiety than men, to be honest I think that's absolute rubbish. I think we all suffer from forms of anxiety and insecurities, perhaps it's most likely that women aren't as afraid to discuss them. Probably due to social pressures and gender conformity, but I firmly believe we are all susceptible.

In the same week I heard that report, I had one of those mornings, everything was normal when I woke up but by the time it came to getting dressed, the negative chatter in my head had started to turn up the volume.

Sometimes in life we find things difficult, whatever the emotional response is, just make sure you take time out to think about it. It's important that you calm yourself, be still, make time to mediate or do some exercise (running, walking is great). You must change your intention to the best, go to a place of love and surrender to the situation. What I mean by that is 'let it be' then think about the why? Why did that experience happen? Why did I respond like that? What did it change in you, did it make you want to change things? If the answer is yes then do it, remember that the world is good and that you should go about doing good until there's too much good in the world. Pick yourself up and fight for what you believe in, life is about being happy and enjoying the experience, it's important that you do that for yourself.

Peace and love to you and yours.