I think it's fair to say we all want a happy life, some want success, some want lots of money, others just want to get through the day to day, whatever you want your life to be like; I'm sure you want to be happy.
So if you want it so much then why aren't you? I'm not trying to patronise you, believe me I've been there; I've had my dark days, hasn't everyone? It's easy to get swept up into the everyday stuff and before you know it life's flying past you and you're letting negative emotions rule you. Maybe not all the time, but you might have one of the days where you find things difficult, upsetting, frustrating etc.
Now a little while ago I stumble across some information about how you shouldn't let a compliment go to your head and how if you let a good comment effect you emotionally i.e. Make you feel happy, then you would be susceptible to negative feedback, or worst no feedback. In that you expected certain feedback and you didn't get it. I remember thinking "well I guess, I mean everyone does like praise for doing something good", but I had never thought about the opposite.
I hadn't really thought about how the outside world had such an impact internally, or that I could choose not to let it effect me. It got me thinking about my reaction to situations and how just maybe it would be possible to choose how I reacted.
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I've been listening to a Tony Robbins audiotape (I found it on YouTube). Nearing the end of the recording he talks about how we look at life through filters, how if you have a certain filter you might have a particular negative reaction. An example he gives is when he describes a near miss with another car whilst driving, he explains how some people would feel lucky for having not been involved in an accident but how others would be angry at the other driver for almost hitting them. Basically we all have the ability to look at situations through the filter we choose to view them with, using a variation of negative or positive emotions.
Sounds simple but it's not, often we are programmed from birth and from the effects of life situations to automatically react to situations, basically we are being fuelled by previous situations, information etc that we deemed important and it's ruling your life.
What can you do to be happy now?
Think about how you react to situations or life in general, is it in a negative way? Could you think about life in a more upbeat way? Are you allowing yourself to get wrapped up in the ease of complaining etc etc?
Its time to take control of the way you think about life and how you react to it, seeing life through a positive filter is a much nicer place to be. The best bit about this is that you have a choice, you can choose the positive outlook and start being and feeling happier today. Sounds easier said than done, but simply being aware of the negative filter you live with, is the start of being able to change it. It may take a while to start looking at the world with a positive mindset, but it will be more than worth it when you do.
Life and the situations happening around you are going to happen, it's how life works, things happen, things change. How you deal with life is the only thing you have control over, so make sure you see it from the best possible place 'the positive place' it's the only secret to a happy life, like attracts like too so the lasting effects of living positivily will start to show up in your world. Life's too short to be miserable, so you may as well enjoy the journey.
Peace and love to you and yours.
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